My Spouse is Vegan and I’m Not: My experience and tips
Having a vegan at home has made me rethink the way I eat… yesterday I had steak for lunch and honestly I’m over it. I definitely eat less meat and chicken than I used to. And that’s fine.
Has my eating changed now that I have a vegan at home?
Yes and no.
I still eat what I want, but the truth is sometimes I feel badly eating in front of him. For example, with milk. I like milk- I still drink milk in my coffee but I’ve tried to not drink more milk in front of him, because I feel badly. Then I think about it, should we be drinking cow’s milk? If my milk (because I’m currently breastfeeding) is for my baby, why am I drinking a calf’s milk? Does it make sense? (One of my husband’s arguments is that being vegan makes intellectual sense… read more about that here).
Still, I’ve tried having my coffee with other types of milk and I simply don’t like it. So for now, I will still have my coffee with a bit of milk.
When my husband started becoming a vegan, he said he wouldn’t try to influence us, but of course, that doesn’t really work. In the beginning, he’d simply make two different types of food… which I explained before, I don’t really like. So, he tries to make food that we can all eat, and sometimes I will add meat/fish/chicken for the non-vegans in the house.
It’s been almost nine months and he is going strong, even after a trip to France. I’m not going to lie, I’m not the best influence… sometimes I would just say “have the croissant already!” or “Don’t you miss cheese?”
Recently, he told me that he was no longer going to buy meat for me when he goes food shopping, so in that way, he is absolutely altering the way the whole family eats.
How does this affect my kids- will the become vegan?
My son, who is six, is also intrigued about the way his father eats and sometimes acts like the vegan police. He’ll say things like “but you can’t eat that, because it’s not vegan.” My son contemplated being a vegan for about 3 minutes… after a serious of questions made him realize he wouldn’t be able to have pepperoni pizza or eggs, he said he couldn’t do it.
As for my daughter, she is only six months old, but my husband has expressed (in passing) that he didn’t think she should have cow’s milk when the times comes for that. We haven’t made any decisions on this nor have we discussed it at length. I should add that my son does eat dairy products like cheese, butter and yogurt.
As you can see, having a vegan spouse definitely alter the way the family eats, the way I look at food, the way I think about food at home. I’m happy my husband has found something that makes him feel good (he says he has never felt better in his body than he does now). Personally, I don’t think I could become a vegan, but as I said before, I never thought my meat-eating husband would ever stop eating meat, so things may change.
TIPS IF YOUR SPOUSE IS VEGAN AND YOU’RE NOT
- Respect his/her decision.
- Find places where you can both eat. (and enjoy the food!)
- Don’t try to change his/her views.
- Even if you are skeptical, try and eat something that is vegan -who knows you may love it!
- Make vegan meals your whole family will love (for me, vegan banana pancakes are it! Perfect for Sunday brunch!)
Is your spouse a vegan? How has that impacted your family life and eating habits? Share in the comments below, or tweet me, @dianalimongi!