3 Ways The Second Baby is Easier Than the First
Here are three reasons why I think the second baby is easier than the first:
First, my second baby got a much more relaxed mom.
Second, I’m much more open to trying new things.
Third, as parents we are exactly where we want to be.
With our second baby, he is working from home and thus has so much more time to be with her. He gives her baths, feeds her, changes her. He has spent every day with her– a luxury that he did not have with our firstborn.
Finally, I’ve simply stop giving a sh*t about what others think.
With my first baby, I would hide and I only have one picture of me breastfeeding him.
I now breastfeed in public, and even take pictures and post on social media when I’m a hot mess.
How things change one baby to the next- with my son, i literally have ONE a picture of me breastfeeding him (and only bc my aunt took it) and I can count on one hand how many times I breastfed in public comfortably with my son (now 6) but with my daughter– well I’ve lost all shame and now I realize that it is so much easier for me to just whip out the boob than to pump and pack the milk in bottles (which I used to do with My son) … in my advocacy work for paid leave and family rights I’ve learned a lot about the importance of normalizing these tasks that are of such importance for our babies and mothers. I say if you want to cover up, cover up, and if you don’t, don’t! If it bothers you, Don’t stare! Breasts were meant for feeding babies not for ppl to stare at. #normalizebreastfeeding #nbm2017 #risers #nationalbreastfeedingmonth #soymamalatina #waglove #latinabloggers #mamasconpoder
With my son, I don’t even have any pictures of him and I at the hospital, just one that we took when I was leaving the hospital, none in the room (with my first baby I also had bruises all over my face and was SUPER swollen, which is why I didn’t really want to be photographed).
This is not meant to say that all things are peachy. There are things that are hard about having two kids– it’s hard to give both kids attention, more specifically the older one who is very vocal about it, and seems to want attention when I’m breastfeeding or holding my daughter. I try to make him feel special too, I’ll soon be posting about how I am attempting to do that.
Overall I do think the second baby is easier than the first because I’m a more relaxed mom, and we’ve matured as parents. I’m more present in the moment and I’m not missing out on my life pre-baby. I try to savor every moment with her now that she is little, something I don’t remember doing with my son.